The Family Bank: Intra-Family Loans & AFR

The Family Bank: Intra-Family Loans & AFR

Stop giving handouts; start offering hand-ups. How to act as a lender to your heirs using the IRS Applicable Federal Rate (AFR).

Dec 26, 2025 Code Authority: Team BMT WEALTH TRANSFER

Executive Summary

  • The Handout Problem: Outright gifts often kill ambition (“Entitlement”). Loans, however, create accountability. The “Family Bank” lends money to heirs for productive assets like homes or businesses.
  • The AFR Advantage: The IRS sets the minimum interest rate for private loans (Applicable Federal Rate). This is typically much lower than commercial bank rates. You can lend to your child at ~4% when banks charge 7%.
  • Keeping Interest in the Family: When a child pays interest to a bank, that money is lost forever. When they pay interest to the Family Bank, the wealth remains within the family circle.

The “Sham Loan” Warning

If you do not enforce repayment, the IRS will reclassify the loan as a Gift, triggering gift taxes and penalties. You must have a written Promissory Note, a fixed payment schedule, and actual records of payments received.

Mechanic: The Lending Protocol

IRS AFR
Lowest Legal Rate
Promissory Note
Required Document
Security
Mortgage / Lien
Forgiveness
Annual Gifting Option

Simulation: $1M Home Purchase (Bank vs. Family)

Total Interest Paid over 30 Years
Commercial Mortgage (7%)~$1.4M Interest Lost
Money Exits Family
Family Bank Loan (4% AFR)~$700k Interest Saved
Interest Stays in Family
Net Family BenefitDouble Win
Child Saves + Parent Earns Yield
Feature Commercial Bank Family Bank
Interest Rate Market Rate (High) IRS AFR (Low)
Down Payment Strict (20%+) Flexible (0% possible)
Missed Payment Foreclosure / Credit Hit Restructure / Forgiveness

“Money given without effort is often spent without thought. A loan teaches the value of a dollar, even if the lender loves the borrower.”

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