The Family Bank: Intra-Family Loans & The AFR Strategy

The Family Bank: Intra-Family Loans & The AFR Strategy

Stop paying interest to strangers. How to lend money to your heirs at the lowest legal rate (AFR), avoid gift taxes, and keep the interest payments inside the family.

Dec 29, 2025 Code Authority: Team BMT RETIREMENT > FAMILY GOVERNANCE

Executive Summary

  • The Concept: Instead of giving a child $1M to buy a house (which eats into your Gift Tax Exemption), you lend them the money. They pay interest to you (the Family Bank) instead of paying Wells Fargo.
  • The AFR Advantage: The IRS sets the “Applicable Federal Rate” (AFR) monthly. This is the minimum interest rate you must charge to avoid gift tax. The AFR is almost always lower than commercial bank rates.
    👉 Example: Bank Mortgage = 7%. Mid-Term AFR = 4%. Your child saves 3% annually.
  • Wealth Transfer Arbitrage: If the child invests the borrowed money (e.g., in a business) and earns a 10% return, while paying you only 4% interest, the 6% spread is wealth transferred to them tax-free.

The “Sham Loan” Trap

IRS Warning: If you don’t enforce the loan, it’s a gift. To be a valid Intra-Family Loan:
1. You must have a signed Promissory Note.
2. You must enforce the Interest Payments (annually or accrued).
3. There should be a realistic expectation of repayment.
⚠️ Note: The interest you receive is taxable income to you.

Mechanic: Keeping Interest in the Family

AFR Rates
Lowest Legal Rate
Arbitrage
Growth > Interest
No Gift Tax
It’s a Loan
Paperwork
Promissory Note

Simulation: $1 Million Home Purchase (Bank vs. Family Loan)

Interest Paid Over 30 Years
Commercial Bank (7.0%)$1.4M Interest Paid
Money leaves the family forever. Goes to bank shareholders.
Family Bank (AFR 4.0%)$720k Interest Paid
Interest stays in the family (paid to parents/trust). Child saves ~$700k.
Net Family Wealth+$1.4M Retained
The “Expense” became an “Asset” for the lender (Parents). Zero leakage.
Feature Outright Gift Commercial Loan Intra-Family Loan
Gift Tax Impact Eats Exemption None None (if >AFR)
Cost to Heir $0 (Free) High Interest Low Interest (AFR)
Behavioral Impact Dependency Independence Accountability + Support

“Gifts create dependency; loans create partnership. The Family Bank allows you to support your children’s ambitions while teaching them the cost of capital. It turns the family fortune into a revolving credit facility for the next generation.”

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