The Social Contract of Wealth: Family Constitutions & The 3-Generation Curse

The Social Contract of Wealth: Family Constitutions & The 3-Generation Curse

Trusts manage assets; Constitutions manage people. Why 70% of wealth transfers fail due to family feuds, not taxes, and how to write the “Rules of Engagement” to prevent civil war.

Dec 29, 2025 Code Authority: Team BMT RETIREMENT > FAMILY GOVERNANCE

Executive Summary

  • The Statistics of Failure: Research shows that 70% of wealthy families lose their fortune by the second generation, and 90% by the third. The cause is rarely “bad investment.” It is **”breakdown of communication and trust”** among heirs.
  • The Solution (Family Constitution): A document that defines the “Why” of the wealth. It sets the rules for:
    1. **Employment:** Can family members work in the business? (Nepotism vs. Meritocracy).
    2. **Communication:** How are conflicts resolved? (Family Council).
    3. **Mission:** Is the money for lifestyle or for impact?
  • The Structure: While not legally binding like a Trust, the Constitution acts as the “Letter of Wishes” guiding the **Private Trust Company (PTC)**. The PTC Board is morally bound to execute these rules.

The “No-Nepotism” Clause

The Most Critical Rule: Nothing destroys a company faster than an incompetent heir acting as VP.
👉 Standard Protocol: “Any family member wishing to join the business must:
1. Have a relevant Master’s Degree.
2. Work for 3-5 years at an outside company with a promotion.
3. Apply for an open position and compete with non-family candidates.”

Mechanic: The Governance Pyramid

Assembly
All Members (Social)
Council
Elected Reps (Policy)
Board
Business Oversight
Constitution
The Supreme Law

Simulation: The “Cousin Consortium” Conflict

10-Year Business Survival Probability
No ConstitutionSurvival: 30%
Chaos: Disputes over dividends freeze cash flow. Business sold at fire-sale price.
With ConstitutionSurvival: 90%
Order: Pre-agreed Dividend Policy prevents lawsuits. Family stays united.
Next Gen CapabiltyHigh Competence
Competence: Heirs trained in ‘Family Assembly’ before inheriting power.
Feature Family Trust (Legal) Family Constitution (Social)
Enforcement Courts / Law Moral / Peer Pressure
Focus Assets & Tax Values & Relationships
Flexibility Rigid (Irrevocable) Living Document (Amended by Vote)

“A family without rules is just a group of people waiting to sue each other. The Family Constitution is the treaty that prevents the ‘War of the Roses’ and transforms a group of entitled heirs into a unified ‘Family Enterprise’.”

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